Our Year Of Living (Beautifully) Without WalMart

Saturday, October 18, 2008


Arise, then, women of this day! Arise all women who have hearts,
whether our baptism be that of water or of fears!

Say firmly: "We will not have great questions decided by
irrelevant agencies. Our husbands shall not come to us, reeking
with carnage, for caresses and applause. Our sons shall not be
taken from us to unlearn all that we have been able to teach
them of charity, mercy and patience.

We women of one country will be too tender of those of another
country to allow our sons to be trained to injure theirs. From
the bosom of the devastated earth a voice goes up with our own.
It says "Disarm, Disarm! The sword of murder is not the balance
of justice."

Blood does not wipe our dishonor nor violence indicate possession.
As men have often forsaken the plow and the anvil at the summons
of war, let women now leave all that may be left of home for a
great and earnest day of counsel. Let them meet first, as women,
to bewail and commemorate the dead.

Let them then solemnly take counsel with each other as to the
means whereby the great human family can live in peace, each
bearing after their own time the sacred impress, not of Caesar,
but of God.

In the name of womanhood and of humanity, I earnestly ask that a
general congress of women without limit of nationality may be
appointed and held at some place deemed most convenient and at
the earliest period consistent with its objects, to promote the
alliance of the different nationalities, the amicable settlement
of international questions, the great and general interests of

***julia ward howe



i cannot spread this around enough. neither can you

Never mind that when John McCain smiles, it looks about as warm and inviting as a moonlit New England country graveyard.

Never mind that he exhibits more twitches, tics and jaw-clenches than the night shift at a meth lab.

Never mind that he's started having prison-camp flashbacks such as addressing the citizens of a rally as "My fellow prisoners."

A long campaign and economic uncertainty can stress out anyone, whether he's a 72-year-old presidential candidate or just some average retirement-age guy who's trying to keep nine houses and a dozen cars running in tough economic times.

However, when he came out with his recent macho swagger about fear, we felt it was time to intervene. Specifically, he gave a prescription for fear that is dangerous. It's a method of dealing with fear that will drive you nuts if it doesn't kill you first. If you missed the actual quote, he said, "I know what fear feels like...I know what hopelessness feels like. I felt those things once before. I WILL NEVER LET THEM IN AGAIN..."

Straight-Talk Expresso
We feel compassion for him and the circumstances that brought him to make the fateful choice to seal out his emotions. It's a serious problem for him health-wise, but when he seeks to inflict it on the rest of us, it's time to set him straight.

Here's a shot of straight-talk expresso for John McCain: When you won't let yourself to feel your natural, organic feeling of fear, you get out of touch with reality. If you won't acknowledge the existence of fear, you can't tell the difference between what you're really scared about and what you think you're scared about.

You don't have a clue about what's going on inside you. You don't know whether there's a real threat out there or just something your mind is making up. You think life is dangerous, but the reality is just the opposite: you're dangerous to life.

Being driven by fear forces McCain/Palin to run a campaign based on fear. Their goal is not to convince people that they have a better plan for the future, but to make people scared to vote for the other guy.

There are a lot of things people are scared about right now:

•They're scared about losing their homes.

•They're scared about losing their jobs.

•They're scared the Republicans are going to steal the election. In fact, we've heard several people say that they're praying for a landslide, because otherwise the Republicans will find some way to steal it. If you think that's slightly paranoid, you're probably not a Democrat.

McCain/Palin want us to forget about our real fears and focus on something unreal.

McCain/Palin want us to be scared about what they want us to be scared about. They have an advantage, because the things they want us to be scared about are a lot more fun than the things we're really scared about:

•McCain/Palin want us to be scared that Obama is "the other,"
not like us, not a real American.

•They want us to be scared that Obama might secretly worship another god.

•They want us to be scared that Obama pals around with terrorists and gets his spiritual counsel from an America-hating minister.

It's more fun to be scared about those things because it gives you the opportunity to blame somebody else for the fear.

When you point the finger at someone else, it relieves the pressure inside you. If we're scared about those things, maybe we'll forget about what we're really scared about. McCain/Palin are saying: it's a jungle out there, folks, and let's make sure we keep it that way.

As budding psychotherapists 35 years ago, we were taught the essentials of how to help our clients deal with fear.

The key principle can be stated simply: what you resist, persists.

If you hold fear at arm's length, if you seal it out of your awareness, you sentence yourself to living every moment in a prison of fear.

The more you try to seal it out, the more it pervades your life.

The stonewall barrier McCain has proudly built to keep out his fear makes him a prisoner inside his own arrogance.

His stubborn unwillingness to let in the normal human emotion of fear makes him propelled by it.

This much we can tell you from working up-close with more than twenty thousand people:

The only real solution to fear is to let yourself acknowledge it and feel it until it dissipates. Fear is natural.

Your body spent hundreds of thousands of years perfecting it.

It's there to tell you important things like these:

There's a potential threat--pay attention.

There's a problem I don't have a solution to--look for one quick!

When you're scared, look to see if there's a real threat. Figure out what the problem is and get creative about solving it.

Get good at distinguishing between real threats and imaginary threats we make up in our minds.

Don't use the McCain Prescription for fear, by shutting it out of your awareness.

For the sake of his health and for the safety of the rest of us, he should take counsel from another war hero, Gen. Norman Schwarzkopf: "Any man who doesn't cry scares me a little."

That's a piece of useful wisdom, and it points to why John McCain scares a lot of people.

If we could counsel John McCain at this moment in history, when he has squandered much of the honor and good will Americans used to grant him, we'd embrace him, look him in the eye and say this:

Go ahead and let yourself feel scared.
It's normal, it's human and it helps you connect with the rest of us.
When you feel scared, let yourself feel it.
Breathe with it.
Dance with it.
Above all, don't tempt the universe by shaking a fist at fear and saying that you will not acknowledge its existence.

Doing that puts you on a collision course with the forces of nature, like shaking your fist at thunder and saying you're never going to listen to it again.

Instead, let your fear in.

Speak about it to the ones you love.
If you're out in public, speak about it to them, too.
Ultimately, love is the best cure for fear.
If you really want to have a great relationship with yourself and other people, love your fear just as it is, and watch the miracles that unfold as a result.

What happens when you let yourself feel your fear is that it opens up a direct connection to your creativity.

The more you're willing to open up and embrace your fear, the more creativity flows through you.

We would never have believed that remarkable fact until we experienced the truth of it ourselves and saw it work its magic on many other people.

Being cut off from fear or any emotion puts you out of integrity with yourself.

As one our mentors, Jack Downing, M.D., put it, "Integrity glitches cause body twitches."

The source of John McCain's odd display of twitches, jaw-clenches and chilly grins is a fault-line gap of integrity at the center of himself, a place where he has cut himself off from fear and the rest of us.

He wants to become a super hero, The Man Without Fear.

That's not a bad idea for a cartoon, but in real life it would be a disaster.
In real life, we need real heroes, people who are willing to acknowledge fear and look within it, to the gift it brings.

The gift fear brings is the opportunity to love it and thereby grow our capacity for love and creativity.

Sometimes our fears get so great that love is the only thing that will put those fears to rest.

We all need to become experts at dealing with fear right now.

We need to let ourselves feel our fears in a spirit of loving acceptance, so that our willingness to embrace our fears opens the floodgates of creativity that we will need to solve the problems we all face.

There's a lot of fear in the air right now to deal with.

To make matters worse, the McCain/Palin campaign is working overtime to increase the amount of fear in our lives.

McCain/Palin's handlers know that the more scared they can make people, the more easily people can be manipulated into voting against their own interests and good judgment.

John McCain has been roundly criticized of late for sowing seeds of fear and hate.

It's going to be hard to talk him out of that tactic, though, because it got George W. Bush elected twice.

We don't know yet if McCain will change tactics again and try to convince us that the pit bulls he's unleashed are actually nice puppy dogs.

We should be skeptical of this tactic, though, because as the old saying goes, you can take the lipstick off a pit bull, but it's still a hockey mom underneath, or something like that.

***katherine and gay hendricks phds

the site where i got it said PRINT and SHARE...
so PLEASE...print and SHARE :)

thought for the minute: ouija

sometimes my mouse reminds me of ouija...right?

you tried it, didn't you?

frugalmama tip 1: cheapass playhouse


i recommend getting a 9.99 Rubbermaid brand "closet"...ours is for bastians clothes, but try telling that to river.

if it really WERE his playhouse i could NEVER get him out of it.

it has a polymer navy cover with a zipper.

cheapness and GOODNESS...

thought for the minute

How come we choose from just two people to run for president and over fifty for Miss America ?

talk amongst yourselves

roseanne (barr) brought up an interesting topic in her blog....

what if THEY fix the election and obama loses and there are riots (esp race riots)??!!!


muggles for mccain

to anyone who KNOWS what those three words mean, i cannot make myself any clearer whatsoever.

(i am too tired and skittish to've googled it yet...maybe i will after i post...i HOPE i can remember that long)

anyone who doesnt understand what that means...

you might be a muggleneck


***i just started last month on the 23rd (mabon) we are on 2....

i want to title this "fuck joe the plumber"

but i won't.

because i am trying to be positive.

and dude is a plant

a righty plant


i was MARRIED to a plumber

who is dead and cannot defend himself or any other plumbers

we fought over money CONSTANTLY

and NEVER EVER EVER had health coverage

don't get me started about health coverage until this nation has single payer health coverage

i want to say america is a fucking cesspool

but i am being positive.

joe lieberman joe sixpack joe biden joe the plumber


**he's been established as a repu(g)blican

**he owes back income tax

**he doesnt have a liscence


Thursday, October 16, 2008

sometimes we have to ask ourselves the tough questions

like..."what DOES a senator from arizona have to do with the relocation and slaughter of thousands of navajo???" and "why does a senator from arizona seem to be jonesing so hard to set up FORTYFIVE nuclear energy plants all across our great nation?!"

THEN we watch things like this and feel all better....

you don't feel all better? whoopsie...



Q: Why are veterans, active duty, and National Guard men and women opposed to the war

in Iraq?

A: Here are 10 reasons we oppose this war:

1. The Iraq war is based on lies and deception.

The Bush Administration planned for an attack against Iraq before September 11th, 2001. They used the false

pretense of an imminent nuclear, chemical and biological weapons threat to deceive Congress into rationalizing

this unnecessary conflict. They hide our casualties of war by banning the filming of our fallen's caskets when

they arrive home, and when they refuse to allow the media into Walter Reed Hospital and other Veterans

Administration facilities which are overflowing with maimed and traumatized veterans.

For further reading: www.motherjones.com/bush_war_timeline/index.html

2. The Iraq war violates international law.

The United States assaulted and occupied Iraq without the consent of the UN Security Council. In doing so

they violated the same body of laws they accused Iraq of breaching.

For further reading:



3. Corporate profiteering is driving the war in Iraq.

From privately contracted soldiers and linguists to no-bid reconstruction contracts and multinational oil negotiations,

those who benefit the most in this conflict are those who suffer the least. The United States has chosen a

path that directly contradicts President Eisenhower's farewell warning regarding the military industrial complex.

As long as those in power are not held accountable, they will continue...

For further reading:



4. Overwhelming civilian casualties are a daily occurrence in Iraq.

Despite attempts in training and technological sophistication, large-scale civilian death is both a direct and

indirect result of United States aggression in Iraq. Even the most conservative estimates of Iraqi civilian deaths

number over 100,000. Currently over 100 civilians die every day in Baghdad alone.

For further reading:




5. Soldiers have the right to refuse illegal war.

All in service to this country swear an oath to protect and defend the Constitution of the United States against

all enemies, both foreign and domestic. However, they are prosecuted if they object to serve in a war they see as

illegal under our Constitution. As such, our brothers and sisters are paying the price for political incompetence,

forced to fight in a war instead of having been sufficiently trained to carry out the task of nation-building.

For further reading:





6. Service members are facing serious health consequences due to our Government's negligence.

Many of our troops have already been deployed to Iraq for two, three, and even four tours of duty averaging

eleven months each. Combat stress, exhaustion, and bearing witness to the horrors of war contribute to Post

Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), a serious set of symptoms that can lead to depression, illness, violent behavior,

and even suicide. Additionally, depleted uranium, Lariam, insufficient body armor and infectious diseases

are just a few of the health risks which accompany an immorally planned and incompetently executed war.

Finally, upon a soldier's release, the Veterans Administration is far too under-funded to fully deal with the magnitude

of veterans in need.

For further reading:



7. The war in Iraq is tearing our families apart.

The use of stop-loss on active duty troops and the unnecessarily lengthy and repeat active tours by Guard and

Reserve troops place enough strain on our military families, even without being forced to sacrifice their loved

ones for this ongoing political experiment in the Middle East.

For further reading: http://www.military.com/NewsContent/0,13319,FL_loss_092704,00.html

8. The Iraq war is robbing us of funding sorely needed here at home.

$5.8 billion per month is spent on a war which could have aided the victims of Hurricane Katrina, gone to

impoverished schools, the construction of hospitals and health care systems, tax cut initiatives, and a host of

domestic programs that have all been gutted in the wake of the war in Iraq.

For further reading:


9. The military uses racism and discrimination as tools.

In order to recruit for the Iraq War, the most vulnerable minority and social groups in the United States are

preyed upon to be used as cannon fodder. Once inside the military, they are subject to racism, sexism including

harassment and assault, homophobia, and religious intolerance. When at war, the troops are taught to dehumanize

the people of Iraq as an enemy with intolerance and racist epithets.

For further reading:



10. Today's youth face aggressive recruitment tactics that don't tell the whole story.

Popular perception of the military as an "all-volunteer force" hides the fact that our future troops are aggressively

recruited from our lowest income neighborhoods. Economically conscripted, the poor and socially vulnerable

young are bought with the lies of discipline, education and civilian job training to carry out the wishes of powerful

political individuals who are far from war's true horror.

For further reading:



Q: Why do Iraq Veterans Against the War call for the immediate withdrawal from Iraq?

A: There are several reasons why immediate withdrawal is the critical first step toward solving

the problems in Iraq.

1. The reasons and rationale given for the invasion were fraudulent.

There were no Weapons of Mass Destruction in Iraq during the time of the invasion according to US officials

and former chief UN weapons inspector Hans Blix. The idea that Al Qeada and the 9/11 terrorist attacks were

connected to Saddam Hussein and the Baath party were proven false in the 9/11 Commission Report.

Members of the Bush Administration have admitted that they "misspoke" in the run up to the war.

2. The presence of the US military is not preventing sectarian violence.

The US occupation of Iraq has proven to be unable to prevent sectarian violence and halt an escalation towards

a civil war. Despite having an average of 140,000 troops in country since the occupation began, internal violence

and attacks against civilians and Iraqi security forces have been on a steady incline.

3. The occupation is a primary motivation for the insurgency and global religious extremism.

The insurgency can be broken down into many individually named factions with various goals, beliefs, and

techniques. However, our membership of veterans believe that the occupation of Iraq is the primary thing

encouraging the insurgency and giving it legitimacy in the eyes of many Iraqis. Likewise, other people of the

Islamic faith are encouraged to resist America 's policies internationally based on how they perceive our military

operations in the Middle East.

4. We can no longer afford to fight this war of choice.

The financial burden is destroying our domestic programs that could be used to protect us from natural disasters,

provide medical programs, or help improve education. We are jeopardizing the US economy and putting

strains on the budgets of important government agencies like the Veterans Affairs Department.

5. National security is compromised.

Funds that could be used to protect our ports and transportation are being stripped away while our National

Guard units are on constant deployments instead of being used to protect and defend us here at home.

6. The world is becoming more dangerous.

International terrorist attacks have increased and it has become more dangerous for Americans to travel abroad.

Approval for US policy has decreased and the dislike of Americans has increased.

7. Our national "moral authority" is being undermined.

The US has lost credibility to much of the world as the defender of liberty and freedom and our national identity

is eroding. We can no longer deploy our armed forces for peace keeping measures with the good faith of the

international community. We need to regain the respect and faith of the global community. This begins by

withdrawing our troops from Iraq and helping the Iraqi people rebuild their country and society.

8. The majority of American citizens, Iraqi citizens and US military would like to see an immediate end to

the war in Iraq.

If we are truly a democracy and we aim to create a democracy in Iraq our leaders will represent the will of the

citizens and lead according to their wishes.

9. The military is broken.

We are abusing the small population of armed service members with multiple deployments while using inadequate

vehicles and equipment. Less than one half of a percent of the American population is serving in the

active armed forces, which is the least amount in the last century. Only 25% of the troops in Iraq are there for

their first tour, while 50% are there on their second tour, and the remaining 25% are there three times or more.

We continue to involuntarily extend soldiers with Stop-Loss, recall them repeatedly for additional service using

the Individual Ready Reserve, and send soldiers with diagnosed medical problems into combat.