Our Year Of Living (Beautifully) Without WalMart

Saturday, June 28, 2008

holy F****

i just was catchin up on a little perez (thats where i should stop, i guess)



the "charity dujour" of the day is to help with postpartem mood disorders and it is this chick's foundation...

then i read it was for the chick AND the baby and i got foreboding...

then i clicked on it, and read their yuppie foundation bullshit, looking for how these people died, (my guess was she drowned them both)

then there is a youtube video about the chick and the baby and makes you suffer through her hallmark card, yuppie bullshit life flashing before your eyes pictures of this chick and i am getting angrier and angrier because i want to know how this woman killed that baby...(i am morbid and getting more and more upset by this point)

the end of the slide show is laughing, cute pictures of the baby...

they dont tell you on the website how they died...i had to google it...

the website is FULL of yuppie condolences about what a bright light and gorgeous wonderful wife mother sister blah fuckin blah fucking blah about this woman...

so i had to google it...

SHE SHOT THE SEVEN WEEK OLD BABY....she took a pistol and SHOT THE SEVEN WEEK OLD BABY

and then herself....

i agree...postpartum mental disorders EXIST...i have more than likely been suffering from them in some form or another for nine years...ESPECIALLY since i have had the two babies in the last two years...

how would we help mothers like this, then, you ask...

*GO TO A WOMAN'S HOUSE WHO HAS JUST HAD A BABY AND DO HER HOUSEWORK....

*GO TO A WOMAN'S HOUSE WHO JUST HAD A BABY AND FIX HER A DAY'S WORTH OF MEALS...FREEZE BACK SOME FOOD IN THE FRIDGE...

*GO TO A WOMAN'S HOUSE WHO JUST HAD A BABY AND GIVE HER A BREAK...FIND A WAY TO HAVE HER LET YOU WATCH THE BABY (IN THE HOUSE) WHILE SHE TAKES BATH, HAS A MEAL, AND HAS SOME REST...

*DO HER LAUNDRY FOR A WEEK

*TALK TO HER...REALLY SEE HOW SHE IS DOING...

*WATCH HER MOODS AS BEST AS YOU CAN...MAKE HER CALL YOU SEVERAL TIMES A DAY, IF YOU HAVE TO

*MAYBE EVEN MOST IMPORTANTLY....(WELL ONE IMPORTANT THING)
***SUPPORT THE HUSBAND...LET HIM KNOW YOU ARE A TRUSTED PERSON AND THAT YOU BOTH LOVE THE MOTHER VERY MUCH AND WANT TO MAKE SURE THAT EVERYTHING IS OK....GET THE HUSBAND DINNER AND A BREAK TOO...HELP HIM SUPPORT THE MOTHER...***

*IN A SINGLE MOTHER SITUATION IT IS EVEN MOOOOORRRREEE IMPORTANT TO SUPPORT THE MOTHER IN ANYWAY YOU CAN THINK OF...

*MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHE CAN CALL YOU ANYTIME(!!!!!!!!!!!!!) ESPECIALLY(!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT WHEN IT IS HARDEST AND LONLIEST AND WORST...my neice called me at 3 in the morning once about her baby...it was the best helping of anyone i may have ever done in my entire life.

*AND OF COURSE (!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) PROFESSIONAL HELP IS THERE AND WAITING...IT IS FAR STUPIDER TO BE MORE AFRAID OF CHILDREN'S SERVICES OR ANYONE (!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) ELSE'S JUDGEMENT ON THE MOTHER AND THE SITUATION THAN IT IS WRETCHED (!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) TO IMAGINE THAT WOMAN AS THE MURDERESS OF HER OWN BABY BECAUSE SHE HAD A SEVERE PROBLEM AND THERE WAS NO ONE AT ALL ABLE TO HELP HER...

*IN MOST IF NOT ALL OF THE OTHER NATIONS IN THE WORLD, (FIND ONE WORSE THAN THE UNITED STATES, I CHALLENGE YOU) WOMEN ARE MUCH MUCH MUCH MORE SUPPORTED WITH DOULA, MIDWIFE, MAID, AND ESPECIALLY FAMILY AND FRIEND CARE THAN HERE.

****WHAT I CAN DO IS ASK YOU TO THINK ABOUT THIS... SERIOUSLY...

THINK LONG AND HARD ABOUT WOMEN SHOOTING THEIR SEVEN WEEK OLD BABIES AND THEN THEMSELVES

i guess i wish this woman peace in the place she is now....as well as that baby who was but a brief tiny flicker in this world....
but they have illuminated the way for me to write this all up and who knows, maybe influence SOMEONE or SOMETHING for the better, i would hope...

it took guts to type this all up and explain how i was feeling...i am full of piss and vinegar about the state of women's affairs...just absolutely out of my own mind incredulous at the weakness and vulnerability of women and children in this culture....

call up a mother and say hello....tell her she is doing a beautiful job....give her a breather....let her know that a breather is totally ok....let her know she is not alone in her head, that the whole world is out there just waiting for her to ask it for a little bit of help....

thanks for reading this far....i could write a book about this...seriously....

(0riginally posted june 26,2008)

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